Relationship Resolutions


Seems like Heath & I are always a little late to make resolutions - we don't really get our act back together until mid-January! I know that the month is almost over, but I haven't given up on the idea of resolutions quite yet.  What about you - do you make them, love them, hate them?  I think I like making them because I don't put too much pressure on myself to keep them, and I love goal setting and dorky stuff like that. 

I came across this article on Martha Stewart Weddings, 8 Relationship Resolutions for the New Year, and I think it's kind of fun. They range from the usual, "improve communication" to really fun stuff like "have a two person book club" and "learn to cook all of our favorite takeout foods together." 

J.D. and I had already been thinking about a relationship resolution we want to make a priority in 2015 - Once a Month Date Nights!  We'll be married 7 years this March, and what's that they say about the 7 year itch?!  Well, we're aiming to avoid that!  We do plenty of stuff socially, but truthfully, it's almost always with friends, and we're so worn out in the evenings that our nights in look less like a "date" and more like us staring at our computers finishing up work.  SO, we're resolving to 12 dates this year, one every month, just the two of us! 

We've found the perfect sitter two doors down (J.D., the negotiator that he is, has negotiated a "sleeping hourly rate" with our teenage sitter - I was completely embarrassed to hear him negotiating with a teenager on why the rate should be lower while Virginia is sleeping, though he has a point!)  And the key to us sticking to this, we're going on THURSDAY night dates.  This is key I think.  We're both already dressed for the day (for work) and we're still in "go" mode getting through to the weekend.  Seeing date night on the calendar that Thursday will be that little thing I look forward to that week, it will keep me moving.  Because truthfully, date nights on Saturday aren't as appealing to me.  If we don't have plans with friends, I'd rather just hang out around the house on the weekend (and not get dressed - lame??!)  And on Thursday night, we figure we'll spend less - we won't stay out late and we'll likely skip that extra drink.

Our first date is next Thursday!  Should be fun, and bonus, it coincides with my haircut day, which means my hair will be perfectly blown dry. :)  I'm excited, and we're thinking we'll trade off every other month who picks where we go.  Any Relationship Resolution you're working on this year?  Do you already have a true "date night"?

~Mary Keller

photo from our wedding by Melissa Schollart

6 comments:

  1. In my defense, the "sleeping" rate is twice what she said her friends get paid and the "awake" rate is three times what she said her friends get paid!

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  2. I love this idea and even better is JD's rate negotiation. I totally agree though - being paid to sit and watch TV should be less than actually having to entertain a child.

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    1. I knew you'd love that Betsey, I can see Tim doing the same one day! :)

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    2. You know it! I sent this to Tim to read since I knew he would love this so much!

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  3. This is a great idea! I also like the two person book club idea.

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    1. Thanks Katie, I like the book club idea too, only problem is I already have a tough time reading the books for my real (girls) book club, I doubt I could stick to another one too!
      ~Mary Keller

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